Win Back Ex Boyfriend Girlfriend Husbands Wives - It's Easier Than You Think

By: Mark Myers

Are you positive you want this? You can win back ex wives, girlfriends, husbands, boyfriends, whatever it is you lost. All you need is to understand a few psychological phenomena. You can stack the deck in your favor, if you know what to say and do.
First let's discuss your relationship. If you were an exclusive couple for less than 6 months, you need to just move on.. Let it go, and find someone else. If you had longer than 6 months together, you can win back an ex with a well defined plan of action.
Here is an important point, your ex does not want to be alone. Humans are pack animals, and they need acceptance by nature. If they have time invested with you, it is not too late. Here is one of human nature factoids. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.
Here is the first step, call your ex and agree with the break up, tell them it was a good idea and for the best. Then do not go further, do not explain, do not elaborate, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. Simply let them believe it is completely over.
Next item, make no contact for three to four weeks. order: :2:2:That means none. Their loneliness (yours too) will peak at three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If they call you, fine, but do not make first contact for three to four weeks (maybe a couple weeks longer if you behaved badly when you first broke up).
Now you can call, once. Invite them for a short meeting, like lunch or a cup of coffee. Make sure you keep it at a short time limit. You want your ex to know they can escape, no party, family function, etc. When you meet keep it light. Pretend you are meeting an old friend to catch up, keep it simple. Make your ex laugh, the sooner the better, then they will relax. The chances are they will have forgotten your faults and only remember the good times you had together.
Play on that, recall pleasant memories to your ex. This is important. You know exactly how your ex talks. Remember the speed and tone they use. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and speed that they do.
Make yourself a mirror to their body movements and language. If they have their arms crossed, cross yours. If they gesture with their left hand, use your right. Be a little subtle and don't make it obvious, and they will never catch on. When you talk, talk at the same rate they are breathing, breathe with them. Once you do this for a couple of minutes, you move and see if they do too. Touch your napkin, and see if they touch theirs. Once they follow your lead, you have built enough rapport and trust to get them slowly back into your life, congratulations.
Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.

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